At my office once a month we have a big KW Meeting. They do a segment called "Filling Someones Bucket". I was chosen by last months person as someone who fills her bucket. She said some nice thing about me and how she is grateful I was able to teach her her job, be her friend and help her out around the office. Then they let the people from the office add to it. My boss Jenni added how I help her team and she can't do it without me. Tim added how I am a part of his family and he is grateful for me and my caring for him. More and more people added their own comments on how they are grateful for me. As they continued and as I heard from an old friend's mother I realized I needed to hear these comments at this time from her and from my co-workers. I needed to hear she cares for me still and I was and am a special person in her and her husband's life. I heard the information I needed to fill my heart that has been broken for a few months. I have tears hitting the keyboard as I type, replaying all that spoke at the meeting and came up to me afterwards sharing what I meant to them or how they can't wait to get to know me, as I seem really great.
I have had an event happen that has made me question who I am and my lack of good judgement in people. I realized that in the last 3 months I have let one person affect how I see everyone and how I think people see me. These agents as they spoke of me saw a caring person with a big heart and willingness to help ease their burdens at no expense of myself. As I get older I have lost touch and grown apart from people in my past. Now I see it's not for the bad but for the good that this has happened. I can be the person who always says "YES", I just need the "YES" not to affect my own happiness. I stay to help clean up to let those in charge know I appreciate what they have put together for myself and family to enjoy. I work after hours to ease my burden of a busy schedule the next day. I answer Agent's question to educate them and make them better agents. I help make items to sell because I am enjoying the company of those around me. I say "YES" because I grow as a person. It's not a bad thing to say "YES", it's just bad when the person asking does it only because they know you will and when you do it it doesn't benefit you. I have started to say "NO" a lot more and these people still love me and appreciate all I am willing to still do. I am not a perfect person, but today I am a lot happier with myself because someone choose me as the person who touched her. In reality she help me more then she could ever know in a time I didn't think I needed anyone.
Thank you Teri O.
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I appreciate having you as a sister who is so loving and supportive to me and my crazy family.
My girls love you so much, and want to go to your house all the time and just see you.
I love talking with you and sharing one anothers burdens.
You are such a nice person and are always willing to give. There are times I feel I take advantage of you, but even if I do/have, you are still so kind to me.
We love you so much and I'm happy that Teri could help you when you thought you didn't. She's a sweet woman and I'm glad you have such nice co-workers and bosses.
You were always so private growing up that I wasn't sure what to make of you sometimes. I love(d) you and knew that you were fun to be with. I think it was in my senior year when I was talking to mom and it just suddenly dawned on me how caring and supportive you were to everyone around you. You do what you can to make people happy.
It's good that you are learning to say "no" sometimes and put yourself first. It's something that I am also learning to do.
Andrea and I have talked about this exact topic in relation to you a couple of times. Each time I thought you were making the right decision to move on from some of your old friends and each time you did, you seemed happier. My old friends are still old friends but I would not be where I am today if I kept them as current friends. It was in my mid 20's when I realized that friends are there to support you and help you move on to better things. Some of those friends linger longer than others and some are friends until you die. Those that last the longest are those that give as much as they need, hope the best for you in all your circumstansesas and love you through your changes. Perhaps that is why it is so important to find a friend to spend your life with.
You are important to us way up north, where it is cold today.
Thank you for all the love. Derek always says he just needs me and his parents. I'm understanding that more and more. In my case I need him, parents, sisters, brother and in-laws.
Thanks again guys. Love you all!
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